There’s nothing quite like someone’s voice. It’s a signature of sorts.
Some voices are like music to our ears. They announce the presence of someone we love and delight in. Just the sound of their voice brings a smile of joy.
When someone exits, their voice goes silent. Yes, we might have recordings, videos, or DVDs to help us remember and feel connected. But their “live” voice is gone.
The ensuing silence can bring deep sadness.
“I Miss his Voice”
“There’s no one else like him. The intimacy we enjoyed was special. We were true partners,” Betty shared.
“I especially loved all the playful, verbal bantering. It was so much fun. I even made a list of the words we used in our everyday conversation.”
Betty paused and sighed.
“Goodness, I miss his voice,” she said.
The Power of the Human Voice
The power of the human voice is extraordinary. Like the eyes, the voice uniquely expresses our hearts and minds. It’s one of the first things many bereaved spouses, family members, and friends say they miss.
What loved ones and those close to you said, and how, is deeply embedded in your soul. Their words are weighty and powerful.
Their voice may be silent to your ear, but not to your heart. They can still speak through you.
Here’s a grief affirmation for today:
“I miss your voice, but I hear it deep inside. I’ll treasure your words.”
Adapted from Heartbroken: Healing from the Loss of a Spouse (Amazon Bestseller, USA Best Book Award Finalist, National Indie Excellence Book Award Finalist).
Question: What do you miss most today?
Thank you for your site. I cant always comment because the pain is too emmense but it is a help to me.
I too miss everything about My Love. I miss his singing to me. I miss his helping me parent. His confidence in me. His undying love and devotion… I know i still have those but i miss the physical/tangible evidence.
(I love you, My Mars.♡♡)
Hi Ellen. Thanks for much for commenting. And thank you for your encouragement. Thank you for sharing what you miss. We miss so much, don’t we? And it seems to come in waves. If I can ever help in any way, please give me a shout. Blessings to you…
I miss my daughter’s everything! She was so amazing, she would light up a room with her beautiful spirit. I sometimes put my arms around myself and whisper “u love you mama”, and I can still hear her voice.
Hi Cathy. Thank you for sharing. She sounds absolutely wonderful. I’m so sorry. SO sorry. Please reach and share any time. Please be kind to yourself. This is so, so hard.
I lost my husband 7 years ago. I miss seeing the love he had for me reflected in his eyes. I miss hearing his voice and laughter. I don’t think I will never not miss him.
Hi Patricia. Thanks for sharing. And I’ll be you are right. Love has no end. On some level, you will always miss him. He has an always-place in your heart, and therefore in your life. Blessings to you today.
It’s hard to say what I miss the most because I miss everything about him! Yes, his voice is definitely something I would give almost anything to hear again. Especially the way he said he loved me.
Hi Vickie. Thank you for sharing. Yes…we miss everything. It’s hard to separate voice from presence from laughter from kisses, etc. We miss the PERSON, all the time. I’m so sorry. If there’s anything I can do for you, please let me know. Blessings to you…
What I miss most is my Isaiah’s daily calls and his daily texts wishing me a good morning and a good night. I miss him coming home every weekends. Weekends are still the hardest for me.
Hi Becky. Thanks for sharing. I’m so sorry about Isaiah. Love that name. Yes, weekends are typically hard. Sigh. Please let me know if there’s anything I can do for you. Blessings…
I miss his laughter.
Hi Mary. Yes. Laughter. I’m so sorry.
His presence. Yes his voice, his touch, his laughter, just being around him. Even though we were married for almost 23 years, I still got excited when he walked through the door after work, or when he was out of town and called. I miss everything about him, and us.
Hi Miriam. Thanks for sharing this. Yes…we miss them, and us. Sigh. If I can ever help in any way, please give me a shout. Blessings to you.
My son’s hugs!
Hi Sheryl. Hugs are wonderful, especially from the right person. I’m so sorry. Blessings to you…
My husband was in radio. Sometimes I would tune into his show just to hear him talk. Sometimes he would read to me. He had a beautiful voice. He could sing too. I miss all of this. Thank you for helping me to get through this first year of his death and for letting me know that anything I do to get through this is alright and that I’m not going crazy. I miss Bill.
Hi Patricia. What a wonderful voice he must have had. You’re certainly not crazy. I’m so sorry. Please keep being kind to yourself. Please feel free to reach out here any time.
I miss not being able to share my day with him, not hearing his voice or laughter. In the mornings we began our day talking about our plans for the day, what we read in the newspaper, or just small talk. Seeing his empty chair is a constant reminder that he’s gone.
Hi Arlene. Thanks for sharing. I can almost see the picture you painted for me with your words. Sigh. I’m so sorry. Please be patient with yourself through all of this. It’s hard, hard, hard. Blessings…
Everything !
I miss his voice, although I have recordings. I miss his physical presence the hugs and kisses, the sharing, being together. I miss talking to him, the silence is deafening. The pain is sharp and not going away. I don’t think he is gone.
Hi Gayleen. Yes, we’re so used to them being there. It’s like their presence lingers in our hearts. Please keep being kind to yourself, Gayleen. Praying for you.
After a year and a half I still just miss EVERYTHING about him but at the top of the list would be his voice and those crazy lingering bear hugs we shared even from his hospital bed. I can’t always remember EXACTLY how his voice sounded but I can still FEEL those wonderful hugs.
Hi Deb. Thanks for sharing. I couldn’t help but smile as I read your comment. Crazy lingering bear hugs. Beautiful. Please be kind to yourself. Blessings to you…
I miss when my son BJ would rub noses with me whenever I’m upset to get my focus off whatever it was troubling me.His big hands touching me.His words that comfort and jokes that tickled me pink.I miss my son so bad that, words cannot express how much I miss and love you,son#1BJ
Hi Felicia. Thank you for sharing about BJ. What a wonderful guy. I can’t imagine how much you must miss him. Please be patient with yourself in all this. And reach out any time. Blessings to you…
I miss my son’s unconditional love. He was my port in any kind of storm with no questions asked. Although time makes the intense grief different, there is a piece of my life missing in all that I do and experience.
Thanks for sharing. I’m so sorry about your son. Unconditional love – what a gift that is, and the person who gives it. If there’s anything I can do for you, please let me know. Blessings to you today.
I so miss Jerry’s tender touch, his hugs as we laid getting ready for our nights sleep. Joyce Miles Waller
Hi Joyce. Thanks for sharing. Jerry must have been a wonderful man. I’m so sorry. Please feel free to reach out here any time. We’re in this together!
His laughter and his kidding around. He was a happy guy and took joy in his family
Hi Dee. Laughter and humor. What a gift. I’m so sorry. Praying for some laughter for you today.
I miss my husbands slight smile, miss his tosseling of my hair,his strong arms, his smell. I miss the strenght he gave me and all his love. I miss EVERYTHING!!
Hi Theresa. Thanks for sharing. I’m so sorry about your husband. Everything. Yes…
Today I miss his quirky smile and twinkling eyes that tell me not to take things so seriously. That smile always brought me to smile, even if it wasn’t a smiling moment.
Hi Linda. Nice. I can almost see his face. I’m so sorry. Please be kind to yourself today.