Articles by Gary Roe

When Grief Comes Out of Nowhere

Sometimes, I seem to be doing better, and then I get hit again. The grief comes and smacks me, seemingly out of nowhere. A song. A familiar place. A picture. A certain aroma. A sudden memory. Anything can set me off. The grief wells up inside me so quickly. It feels...

Why am I tired all the time?

I’m exhausted. I’m doing what I know to do to take care of myself, but I’m still walking around in a fog. I can’t think straight. My sleep isn’t what it was. My energy level is down. I drag myself out of bed. I drag myself around and out. I drag myself through work...

Why am I Still Here?

Why am I here?This loss has shattered my world and my illusions.I was moving, but I’m not sure I was going anywhere.My questions are larger and deeper now.Why are we here? What is this all about?Why am I here? What’s my purpose? Sir William Wallace reportedly once...

People I Counted on Disappeared

People I counted on disappeared.Everyone was supportive at first.Then, poof. No calls. No emails. No texts.What happened?I feel abandoned.Where did everyone go? People don’t know what to do with grief. This is strange considering we all deal with loss along the way....

How to Find Hope While Grieving

I’m sad and distraught. I’m angry and frustrated. My world has become dark. It’s almost as if hope has departed somehow. How can I find hope again? When a close, painful loss strikes, a domino effect of change begins. The initial loss spawns many others. Like ocean...

Where is God in all this grief?

Where is God in all this? Yes, I know He’s with me. He’s with everyone. He’s everywhere. He can do anything. He cares for me. I know all these things, but somehow, I don’t feel them. I wonder if I feel much of anything. I guess I’m still angry with Him. Or perhaps I...

How to Handle Emotional and Spiritual Numbness

I feel numb. I feel numb emotionally and spiritually. This should be frightening, but it’s like I can’t feel the fear - or I don’t care. I hope this gets better, because I don’t want to be like this. Is spiritual numbness a thing? Is it a part of grief? Yes, it’s...

I Don’t Know What Life Looks Like Now.

I feel confused. I know what happened. I know I miss them terribly. I know that I’m hurting, and I feel alone in my grief. But I don’t know what life looks like now. I don’t know what’s ahead. I keep trying to figure things out, but my mind ends up going in circles....

Is There Something Wrong With Me?

Where did everyone go? It seems like people are disappearing. They said they would be here for me. Where are they? Lots of promises of support, but no follow through. No calls, texts, emails. Nothing. Is there something wrong with me? Have I contracted a contagious...

I Don’t Feel Like Myself Right Now

I’m scared. All this has made me think of my own mortality. I’m going to die. We’re all going to die. None of us escapes this. That’s terrifying. And it could happen anytime, anywhere, to anyone. To me. I wonder if I’m getting paranoid. I don’t feel like myself at...