Articles by Gary Roe

How do I deal with this awful anxiety?

I feel shaky inside. I’m skittish and nervous. I’m anxious about everything now. What is happening to me? How do I deal with this? Anxiety is extremely common during times of loss. Most of us deal with some anxiety on a daily basis. We live in an anxious world. Some...

Why Does This Hurt So Much?

My heart is in such pain. I feel like I’m in pieces. I’ve never experienced anything like this. Why does this hurt so much? Loss hits our hearts. The pain of losing someone we love can be deep and debilitating. We are designed for relationship. We come out of the womb...

Where Did Everyone Go?

"Where did everyone go?" I've heard this statement many times from grieving hearts. After a loss, our relationships begin to change. People pull back. Some disappear. Others try to support us but have no idea what to do. Still others evaluate us and tell us what to...

What do I do when grief leads to anger?

I’m angry about what happened. Surely someone could have done something. Why did this have to happen? Why do we have to die? What do I do with this anger? Anger is a powerful emotion. It is a natural and common part of the grief process. Almost everyone experiences...

When Grief Leads to Guilt

After the death of a loved one, guilt tends to surface. We wonder what we could've done that we didn't. There are things we did and said that we regret. "I feel guilty," is a common statement from grieving hearts. The following is an excerpt from Comfort for Grieving...

How Could This Happen?

This can’t be real. It just can’t. I can’t believe it. It doesn’t make any sense. This is all wrong somehow. How could this happen? When we first hear the news of the death of someone we love, our hearts are stunned. Our minds freeze. Even our bodies can go into...

“I Don’t Know How to Do This!”

"I don't know how to do this." I have certainly felt that way. Have you? Loss catapults us into a new world. We've never been here before. We don't know what to do or how to be. The following is an excerpt from my book, Comfort for Grieving Hearts. I hope you find...

Everyone Wants Me to Feel Better

"Everyone wants me to feel better." I've felt that a lot. I'll bet you have too. It seems that loss and pain are unpopular in our world (even though everyone experiences them). We run from pain. We get a variety of reactions. Some avoid us. Some try to fix us. Some...

Who Else am I Going to Lose?

I can’t believe this happened. If this can happen, then anything can happen to anyone, anywhere, anytime. I find myself wondering, “Who’s next?” Who else am I going to lose? One loss usually leads to fear of another. For some, this terror is obvious in our words and...

Why can’t people respect my grief?

"Why can't people respect my grief?" Have you ever thought or said this? I have. Many times, in fact. Some people might have some sympathy for us. Some might even be empathetic. But surely, everyone should be able to respect our grief, right? Sadly, everyone does not....