Articles by Gary Roe

How Do I Handle Panic Attacks?

I’m having panic attacks now. They’re awful and terrifying. Sometimes, I feel like I’m dying. I’m a disaster. I feel so out of control. What can I do? Panic attacks are indeed terrifying. Sadly, they tend to be common in the grief journey. Sometimes we know what the...

Surrounded, Trapped, and Outnumbered

The grief journey is challenging. Along the way, we might feel trapped, surrounded by grief. We can feel outnumbered and like the world is against us. The following is a chapter from Soul Cry: Devotional Prayers for Wounded, Grieving, and Suffering...

Is Apathy a Part of Grief?

I sigh a lot now. I find myself thinking and even saying, “Whatever.” If this can happen, if we all die, then what’s the point? Frankly, I don’t care anymore, and that scares me. Do other people experience this? Is apathy a part of grief? Most grieving hearts...

Trying and Failing

The grief journey is challenging. Along the way, most of us feeling like we're failing somehow. Then we try harder. And then we fail again. The following is a chapter from Soul Cry: Devotional Prayers for Wounded, Grieving, and Suffering Hearts. Chances are you can...

How Do I Stop This Terrible Ache in My Heart?

At first, my heart was shattered. I didn’t know how to feel. I was stunned. Then came the pain. The intensity shocked me. Now I live with this pain - this chronic aching. How do I stop this terrible ache in my heart? At first, we’re shocked and stunned. When we come...

In the Grip of Fear

The grief journey is challenging. Along the way, most of us experience fear. Perhaps a lot of fear. The following is a chapter from Soul Cry: Devotional Prayers for Wounded, Grieving, and Suffering Hearts. If you're fearful or anxious, chances are you can relate to...

How Do I Deal with Traumatic Mental Images?

I’m plagued by what I saw. The pictures in my brain will not go away. I add to them other things that I have imagined. These images haunt me. How do I deal with this? How do I get rid of the pictures in my mind? One terrible truth in life is that we can’t un-see...

Grieving and Angry

If you wish, you can read the following article on my website. The grief journey is challenging. Along the way, most of us experience anger. The following is a chapter from Soul Cry: Devotional Prayers for Wounded, Grieving, and Suffering Hearts. If you're dealing...

Finding Closure: When You Didn’t Get to Say Goodbye

I didn’t get to say goodbye. I didn’t get to hold their hand and look into their eyes. I didn’t get to tell them all they meant to me, to ask forgiveness, or to even say, “I love you.” This is awful. It all feels so unfinished. It’s like I’m in limbo with no closure....

Is It Okay to Feel Numb?

At first, I felt everything. Now, I have trouble feeling anything. It’s like my heart shut down. Am I going to be okay? Is it normal to feel numb? To say that loss is emotional is a gross understatement. The emotional upheaval is one of the first things we notice...