Articles by Gary Roe

Trying and Failing

The grief journey is challenging. Along the way, most of us feeling like we're failing somehow. Then we try harder. And then we fail again. The following is a chapter from Soul Cry: Devotional Prayers for Wounded, Grieving, and Suffering Hearts. Chances are you can...

How Do I Stop This Terrible Ache in My Heart?

At first, my heart was shattered. I didn’t know how to feel. I was stunned. Then came the pain. The intensity shocked me. Now I live with this pain - this chronic aching. How do I stop this terrible ache in my heart? At first, we’re shocked and stunned. When we come...

In the Grip of Fear

The grief journey is challenging. Along the way, most of us experience fear. Perhaps a lot of fear. The following is a chapter from Soul Cry: Devotional Prayers for Wounded, Grieving, and Suffering Hearts. If you're fearful or anxious, chances are you can relate to...

How Do I Deal with Traumatic Mental Images?

I’m plagued by what I saw. The pictures in my brain will not go away. I add to them other things that I have imagined. These images haunt me. How do I deal with this? How do I get rid of the pictures in my mind? One terrible truth in life is that we can’t un-see...

Grieving and Angry

If you wish, you can read the following article on my website. The grief journey is challenging. Along the way, most of us experience anger. The following is a chapter from Soul Cry: Devotional Prayers for Wounded, Grieving, and Suffering Hearts. If you're dealing...

Finding Closure: When You Didn’t Get to Say Goodbye

I didn’t get to say goodbye. I didn’t get to hold their hand and look into their eyes. I didn’t get to tell them all they meant to me, to ask forgiveness, or to even say, “I love you.” This is awful. It all feels so unfinished. It’s like I’m in limbo with no closure....

Is It Okay to Feel Numb?

At first, I felt everything. Now, I have trouble feeling anything. It’s like my heart shut down. Am I going to be okay? Is it normal to feel numb? To say that loss is emotional is a gross understatement. The emotional upheaval is one of the first things we notice...

Why is Grief So Confusing?

I thought life was one way, and now it’s another. My old life is gone. Where? I don’t know. My good friend is gone and took my heart with them. I don’t know which way is up. I feel strange. Weird. Why is grief so confusing? For a moment, picture your life as a large...

Loved, But Lonely in Grief

The grief journey is lonely. Terribly lonely. The following is a chapter from Soul Cry: Devotional Prayers for Wounded, Grieving, and Suffering Hearts. If you're dealing with loneliness, chances are you can relate to the grieving heart in this chapter. I hope this...

I Feel Like a Shadow

"I feel like a shadow." I've felt that way. I've also heard this from many grieving hearts. Life has changed for us. Our worlds have been altered. Nothing seems the same. We go through the motions. We're stunned. We can feel like a shadow of our former selves. What do...