Posted Jan 27 2017 by GaryRoe in Death and dying, Depression, Emotional pain, Grief and Loss, Grief recovery, Guilt, Healing, Healing from the past, Loss of a Child, Suffering and Pain with 0 Comments
Losing a child is a terrible thing. And that’s a gross understatement.
As many of you know, I have been working on a new book for bereaved parents and grandparents. It has been a difficult and emotional project.
We’re pleased to announced that the electronic version of Shattered: Surviving the Loss of a Child, has been released.
If you don’t have a Kindle, consider downloading a free Kindle reading app. If you would prefer a paperback, it should be out next week. Due to various restrictions, we can’t offer the paperback for free, but it will be 50% off the first week after it’s released.
Click here to learn more about the book.
If you haven’t lost a child, you know someone who has. Consider grabbing this free version to help you understand better what they are doing through and how you can help. Also, I believe you will find many things in Shattered that relate to your losses in life, whatever they might be.
We care for grieving hearts. Thank you for being in this with us. I’m glad none of us is alone, though loneliness might often seize us.
Breathe deeply today. Be patient with yourself and others. Take your heart seriously. You are more important than you know.
Not all of us feel merry. Perhaps none of us do.
For those in grief, this time will be emotional, hard, and unpredictable. This holiday is uncharted territory. We’ve never been here before, at this particular time and place. This can be unsettling and scary. Many of us are wondering about a lot of things.
In the midst of all the uncertainty of life, loss, and grief, here are three things I believe to be true. I hope they will be comforting to you somehow:
- You matter, more than you realize. I believe you are of priceless, eternal value. This is true about you no matter what happened in the past, or what happens in the future.
- Your loss matters. You’re missing someone you love. Your world had been upended, perhaps even shattered. That’s a big deal, because your loved one is a big deal.
- Your heart matters. Your heart has been hit, hard. Perhaps it’s broken. Take care of your heart. Take care of you. Honor your loved one and grieve. Grieve well.
You’re not alone. You’re not crazy. You will make it.
I’m glad to be on this road with you.
P.S. Here are some Holiday Affirmations (taken from Surviving the Holidays Without You) that might help:
- Even in my loss, this holiday can still be good. I’ll begin by managing my own and others’ expectations.
- My holidays will be different but they can still be good.
- I’ll feel alone sometimes. I need alone time, but I’ll be careful not to isolate myself.
- If I want to do the holidays well, I must pay attention to my heart.
- I will watch my “gas tank” carefully. This holiday I will choose what I’m going to do, when, and with whom.
- Safe people will help me stay grounded and sane. I will find and treasure them.
- I don’t have to leave my loved one behind. I can be creative and move on with them in new ways.
- God is with me in my grief. He is my comfort and healing.
Gary Roe has been a campus minister, missionary in Japan, and pastor in Texas and Washington. He currently serves as a writer, speaker, chaplain, and grief counselor with Hospice Brazos Valley in central Texas.
He is the author of five books, including the bestsellers Please Be Patient, I’m Grieving (Amazon #1 Bestseller), Heartbroken (USA Best Book Award Finalist, National Indie Excellence Award Finalist) and Surviving the Holidays Without You (Book Excellence Awards Finalist). With more than 400 articles in print, he is a popular speaker at a wide variety of venues.
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