Hurting for the Holidays? Help is on the way…

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Happy Holidays? Merry Christmas?

Not for everyone.

Many are struggling with the loss of a loved one. Perhaps it’s you. If so, help is on the way.

If you’re not grieving this year, I’ll bet you can remember the first holidays after you lost someone. This year, you can help someone else navigate theirs.


Help for the Hurting: The Holiday Grief Campaign

For the grieving, holidays bring powerful reminders of their loved ones. Normal holiday stress is compounded astronomically by grief. Celebrating might be the furthest thing from their minds.

From Nov. 21-Dec. 21, we’re having our second Holiday Grief Campaign. We’re going to use Facebook to meet hurting people where they are and help them heal.

Our goals:

  • provide a safe environment where people can grieve without judgment
  • provide short, inspirational bursts of content to bring comfort and hope
  • provide practical ideas and tools to help the bereaved navigate the holidays

How are we going to do this?

Through 5 Facebook posts a week during the campaign.


How You Can Help

It’s simple.

When the time comes, all you have to do is be willing to share 3-5 selected posts from my Gary Roe – Author, Speaker, Survivor Facebook page posts for the 4 weeks of the campaign.

That’s it.


Want to Help?

1. Go to and like my Gary Roe – Author, Speaker, Survivor page. Then you’ll be able to directly share posts from this page.

2. Go to the special Facebook group Holiday Grief Ambassadors and request to become a member. Then you’ll be able to get updates about the campaign.

3. When the time comes, share the selected posts. I’ll let you know which ones these are.

Simple. And we could help thousands.


Resources We’re Providing

In addition to simple, comforting posts, we’re providing three resources designed to help people grieve well:

1. I Miss You: A Holiday Survival Kit – This free, brief e-book explains why holidays are hard and gives three simple steps to making them better while in the midst of grief. Available soon!

2. The Good Grief Mini-Course - This free, 8-session email series combines stories and practical suggestions to help people navigate the grief roller-coaster.

3. Surviving the Holidays Without You - This book is full of stories, warm content, and practical tips for making these holidays good even in the midst of grief. Available in e-book and paperback.


We Need You!

Again, just share 3-5 Facebook posts a week from my Gary Roe – Author, Speaker, Survivor page. That’s it. Together we can make a huge impact.


Question: Are you missing someone this year? How do you deal with Holiday Grief?

Meant for More Than This? Yes!

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Most of us long for more. Do you?

In my previous post, I talked about the self-hatred many of us battle. We mercilessly punish ourselves for things done and said (or not done and not said). We open the door, and guilt is there. We turn the corner, and shame is waiting for us. Pain clouds our days.

Deep down, we know we were meant for more than this.


Sometimes We Have to Be Broken

I was in my mid-30′s. I’d been having panic attacks. I was struggling in multiple areas. Fear was a constant companion. Grief took over my life.

It was an ugly, emotionally intense time. It culminated one night at about 3 a.m. I couldn’t sleep and found myself prostrate on the floor, my face buried in a pillow, weeping. That night seemed to last forever, but when I got up the next morning, my perspective had changed.

Something had broken inside. Looking back, I believe I came to the end of myself. I quit struggling to figure it all out. I ceased trying to be in control. Somehow, I had let go.


Brokenness Can Lead to Freedom

I love this Scripture:

“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free.

Do not allow yourselves, then, to be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.”

(Galatians 5:1).

I was used to slavery. A broken home, childhood sexual abuse, and multiple losses set me up for guilt, shame, fear, and anxiety. I tried to make myself as small and quiet as possible, hoping to somehow disappear. I wanted out.

Even then, I knew I was meant for more.

I was meant to live in freedom. So were you.

  • Free to replace fear with faith
  • Free to grieve the loss of those you love
  • Free to endure suffering without letting it rule your heart
  • Free to forgive and live grudge-less
  • Free to accept the past, knowing it doesn’t determine your future
  • Free to struggle, knowing you’re always in training for better things
  • Free to be broken to live at new level of maturity and wisdom
  • Free to let go and trust, knowing you’re not in charge
  • Free to encourage and shun gossip
  • Free to love God and other people
  • Free to be whom you were created to be
  • Free to exercise the talents and gifts you were given
  • Free to serve and make a difference in the world
  • Free to battle and overcome evil


Lean Forward

Whatever’s back there, deal with it.

Whatever’s out there, lean into it.

Everything you face is part of your freedom-training. Flee self-slavery. Find some good freedom-training partners. Lean forward.

You were meant for more. You can do this – one day at a time.


Question: Which one of the “freedoms” above grabbed your attention, and why?

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