The holidays are here, and for many of us, they hurt.
This is the fourth and final video in our series on Beating Holiday Grief.
Here are the major points from the other videos:
Video #1: Grief makes holidays challenging, and expectations can add even more to your grief load.
Video #2: You can be proactive. You can choose – what you do, when, how, and with whom.
Video #3: You can meet grief head on, and plan specific ways to honor your loved one.
Today I would like to share with you that something that could make a huge impact in your holiday experience. I call it the Holiday Healing Secret.
Actually, it’s not a secret. In fact, it’s so simple you might even roll your eyes.
Use your grief to give thanks.
You can turn grief into thanksgiving. Gratitude helps heal broken hearts.
- Plan a specific time of thanksgiving focused on your loved one.
- Have a balloon release. Write messages to or about your loved one on balloons and then release them together.
- Write short messages of thanksgiving about your loved one, put them in a box, and wrap them. Open it with the other gifts and read them together.
Be creative. Make it personal.
Use your grief to help you heal. Practicing thanksgiving can be very powerful.
Here are three resources that can help further:
- I Miss You: A Holiday Survival Kit – a free e-book you can download any time.
- Surviving the Holidays Without You: Navigating Grief During Special Seasons – a practical book full of stories and encouraging content. Available in e-book and paperback.
- The Good Grief Mini-Course – a free email course to help you ride the roller coaster of grief.
Yes, your life has changed forever. These holidays might be difficult, but they can still be good.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.
Question: How might you use thanksgiving to honor your loved one and help yourself grieve well?
The Holidays are here. And for many, they hurt.
This is the third video in our series on Beating Holiday Grief.
In the first video, Hurting for the Holidays, we talked about how this time is normally stressful, but grief can make it overwhelming.
In the second video, Why Holidays are Hard and What You Can Do about It, we talked about the unrealistic expectations that come with the holidays and how to tackle them while grieving.
Today we’re going to talk about how you can include your loved one in the holidays.
Here’s a summary of today’s video:
Instead of letting the holidays use you, use them to honor your loved one and love those around you.
How? Plan specific ways to include and celebrate the one who passed. Here a few ideas:
- Set up an empty chair honoring your loved one
- Light a candle in remembrance
- Have everyone bring a card that reminds them of the person
- Put a present with their name on it under the tree. Pass the present around and share memories.
Be creative. If you’re willing, new traditions can be born that honor your loved one and help you and others move on with them, in a new way.
Next time, in our final video, we’ll be talking about a secret you can use to make these holidays a healing experience. It could make all the difference.
If you’re looking for more help navigating the holidays, check out Surviving the Holidays Without You. Packed with stories, comforting content, and practical suggestions, it’s available on Amazon in both e-book and paperback formats.
Your life has changed forever. These holidays might be difficult, but they can still be good.