7 Reasons Why It’s Okay to Hurt


Loss is hard. IT HURTS.

We lose people, marriages, relationships, jobs, health, homes, financial solvency, and so on. Whatever the loss, we grieve.

Why does grief hurt so much? Check out the video above.

In this 5 minute video, I share 7 reasons why it’s okay, or should be okay, to hurt. If you don’t have 5 minutes, here’s a summary:

  1. Grief hurts because it is personal. Every person and every relationship is unique.
  2. Grief hurts because it upends your world. Your life has stopped, while the world seems to go on unaffected.
  3. Grief hurts because it’s confusing. Emotions hijack you. Questions surface. How did this happen? Why? What now?
  4. Grief hurts because it changes you. You’re not the same. Life isn’t the same. Your relationships aren’t the same either.
  5. Grief hurts because others don’t understand. It can be a painful, lonely road.
  6. Grief hurts because it hits the heart. It can crush and shatter it.
  7. Grief hurts, because love is real. Because we love, we grieve.

I’m passionate about helping us heal and grow in the midst of loss and great challenges. In order to keep doing that, and do it better, I need your help.

Could you answer one question for me? Yes, just one. A one question survey about your own grief experience.

Your answer will help me produce more books, courses, and resources designed to help us grieve well, heal, recover, and grow.

Click here to get started. I really appreciate it.

Loss hurts. We’re in this together, and we need each other badly.

Thank you! HEARTBROKEN is a National Book Award Finalist

Well, I’m flabbergasted (I’ve always loved that word!).

HEARTBROKEN was recently recognized as a 2015 National Indie Excellence Book Award Finalist.

As I was writing HEARTBROKEN, I prayed for two things:

  1. That God would use it to bring hope, comfort, and healing to those who have lost spouses
  2. That He would get it into the hands of anyone who could benefit by it

When HEARTBROKEN was released in February,
I didn’t know what to expect. When it became an Amazon Top 10 Bestseller in Grief and Loss, I was honestly startled. Now, I’m deeply honored by this recognition by the National Indie Excellence Award committee.


What’s this award about?

This prestigious national award, based in Beverly Hills, is open to all English language books in print from small, medium, university, and independent publishers. Awarded since 2007, the National Indie Excellence® Awards competition is judged by independent experts from all aspects of the book industry, including publishers, writers, editors, book cover designers, and professional copywriters. Winners and finalists are determined based on overall excellence of presentation in addition to the writing.

Again, I’m stunned.

However, I’m even more encouraged and humbled by feedback from those who’ve read it. It seems God is answering my prayer. Widows, widowers, divorcees, and others are being comforted. Hurting people are healing and growing. Somehow, this book is giving people hope.

I’m so honored to be a part of it.


So here’s what we’re going to do.

I asked that God would get this book into the hands of anyone who could benefit from it. I believe there are still lots of hurting people out there we can help.

So I would like to ask a favor. Please stop and think for a moment. Whom do you know needs this book?

Let’s get it to them.


Let’s celebrate by giving some away hope and healing

From now until Sunday June 29, we’re celebrating HEARTBROKEN’s recognition as a National Indie Excellence Book Award Finalist with a BOGO sale (buy one, get another one free). Our goal is simple. Get this book to as many hurting people as possible.

Here are two options:

  1. Purchase one HEARTBROKEN, and we’ll send you two.
  2. If you’ve already purchased HEARTBROKEN, and can’t think of anyone to give one to, you can order one anyway, and we’ll put aside TWO copies for people who can’t afford it. Just tell us you want to donate your books in the comments section of your checkout cart.

And here is more good news about this BOGO sale:

  • No quantity limits. Buy 2, get 4. Buy 5, we’ll send 10. And so on. Again, you can also DONATE however many of these you wish.
  • No shipping charges on the free copies. Shipping will be calculated based on the number actually purchased.

Just go to this link, and passing along some healing (remember, the sale is on NOW until Sunday, June 29).

Thank you for being a part of this movement of healing. We all hurt. We’ve been hit, and some of us have had heavy, painful losses. Thank goodness we’re in this together.

Healing is possible. As we work together, it is nearer than we think.

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